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Corinne Sweet – Growing Old(er) Disgracefully – Nov 2024

Don’t mention the ‘C’ word’, my friend, Rosie, whispers.  We are sitting comfortably having a lovely flat white at T at the Dials in a brief respite from the autumnal rain and gloom.  Suddenly alert, I learn forward and look at her anxiously.  ‘Oh, I didn’t know…what’s the prognosis?’ 

Rosie suddenly twigs – ‘Oh, good grief, not Cancer, but Christmas! It’s that time of year when all hell lets loose about the festive season’.  We fall about laughing.

Don’t get me wrong, the festive season can be fun, it can be great, especially for children, but it can also be too much pressure and stress.  But for many of us, (particularly women), Christmas denotes the season of hard slog.  On top of work, family commitments, pet care, there are those relational negotiations worthy of the G20.

Another friend of mine got so fed up with sitting in motorway jams and running between families, he decided to plonk a duvet down in the living room and spend Christmas watching Harry Potter films from start to finish.

Whether it’s Christmas, Chanukah, other festivities, the demands on us to organise, spend, cook, gather and consume, can be overwhelming for some. As a psychotherapist dealing a great deal with addiction, I see many people daunted by the exhortation to eat, drink and be merry.

Plus, the delicacies of dealing with complex family and other relationships can also be exhausting.  Step-families, blended families, new inlaws and outlaws, break-ups and mid-splits can create a chequer-board of emotional complexity.

I’m no killjoy, I like a mince pie or latka as much as the next person, but I do feel in these austere and complex times, we need to get control of the ‘oughts’, ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ that can drive us nuts over the winter festive season.

Some basic ‘stay sane’ rules:

•Work out what you want to do first and foremost – if you want time alone that’s fine;  you’re allowed to break with ‘tradition’ and do what you want as a grown up;

•If you are alone and want company – there’s loads of things you can do – singing to people in care homes; working for charities/food banks, cat/dog sitting, etc

•If you are recently split or in a new relationship and/or there are delicate issues to negotiate – don’t run yourself ragged trying to make everyone happy.  Compromise;

•Expect traffic, train disruption, and keep things manageable – aiming for perfection is impossible and always disappoints;

•Be mindful of your food and drink intake  – it’s great to celebrate, but all those ‘get fit’ new year’s resolutions lie ahead.  Plus, too much inebriation can lead to trouble and strife – get some fresh air and exercise and keep things calm.

At the café Rosie and I are still contemplating over our coffee froth.  She explains she always gets into debt over the festive season as she puts stuff on credit cards.  ‘This year, I’m determined to rein it in’.  ‘Like Rudolph, on his way to Lapland’, I suggest.

‘Tis the season to look after yourself, stay sane, and hope for goodwill towards all men and, of course, women.

Growing Old(er) Disgracefully by 

Corinne Sweet

Psychotherapist, writer, broadcaster 

http://www.corinnesweet.com

Sian Berry – Nov/Dec 2024

Since being elected in July, alongside three amazing new Green MP colleagues, I’ve been very, very busy in Brighton and in Westminster, with lots of great Green ideas to put forward, and lots to challenge in my first days as an MP, working across the chamber from a new Labour government.

So far in Parliament, I’ve personally asked 32 written questions, put questions to ministers in the chamber and spoken in debates 11 times, proposed three amendments to Bills, and signed 76 Early Day Motions (EDMs). Green MPs teamed up to propose a King’s Speech amendment as one of our first tasks, and we’ve written to ministers jointly on topics ranging from healthcare to community energy, to taxes and the Budget.

Green MPs worked together to table the first Early Day Motion of this Parliament on bringing water companies back into public hands.

With Carla Denyer, I have also raised concerns about healthcare for young trans constituents directly with Wes Streeting. Many residents have written to me about this issue too, and I’m pleased to have taken action.

Here in Brighton, I have an amazing constituency team and since July, we’ve already dealt with over 500 cases from constituents, held weekly surgeries, visited residents and projects to see problems for ourselves, and written to the council about issues ranging from school closures to planning applications. Issues brought to me by residents in West Hill and North Laine have ranged from anti-social behavior in Zion Gardens, to supporting residents in emergency accommodation and with delays in housing repairs. I’m also in contact with traders in the North Laine who are experiencing long standing issues with theft and shoplifting. On fire safety issues in West Hill and North Laine, I’ve been supporting residents in the New England Quarter and City Point and joined them on ITV calling for action.

At my Parliament office I have been lobbied so far by five constituents in person, and via email I’ve received messages related to campaigns, world events and policies more than 4,000 times on more than 240 different issues. It’s so valuable to get a clear picture like this of what matters most to so many of the people I represent! I’m taking action, supporting campaigns, attending events and writing back to people with the results as quickly as I can while I build up my final Parliamentary staff team.

In the voting lobbies, I have voted ‘AYE’ or ‘NO’ 18 times (abstensions are not recorded). We’ve supported the first stages of several of the Government’s Bills, and are preparing to make amendments to improve them, including on the Great British Energy Bill and the Renters Rights Bill. But seeing the Labour Government vote down two very sensible motions and amendments to get rid of the two-child benefit limit and keep the winter fuel allowance for pensioners was bitterly disappointing.

As four Green MPs we are able to share out the main ‘shadowing’ duty on different departments and each focus on changing particular policies. My main responsibilities are currently to challenge social housing policy, police and criminal justice, work and pensions, culture, media and sport, disabled people, transport and clean air. I have started work on each of these already, and I am also taking up individual issues where Brighton needs action, such as sewage and pesticides.

I was very happy to introduce a Private Member’s Bill, devised by Pesticide Action Network, that would stop public bodies using harmful chemical pesticides in public spaces, streets and gardens and I’m looking for cross-party support to take this issue further.

On housing, I have been pushing for investment in buying not just building council homes, action on the fire safety crisis, plus the need for transparency from housing associations – an area I have challenged the Prime Minister on directly.

On media and culture, I have challenged the council to do more to reduce gambling (and advertising for gambling) in the city, and I’m also doing lots of work supporting grassroots music venues under threat, including the Prince Albert in the North Laine, and working closely with the Music Venue Trust.

On transport I’m making it my mission to address the long standing accessibility challenges at Preston Park Station. I’ve asked questions and have already tabled more coming up. I have already been pushing for an extension to the £2 bus fare cap and, ahead of the Budget, I’ve asked ministers and the Chancellor for more long-term investment for local active travel.

On climate and nature, I’ve met with local Greenpeace members to sign their pledges to keep up the pressure on the new government to bring climate solutions. All four Green MPs are fully behind the newly tabled Climate and Nature Bill.

Throughout all this time, all Green MPs have been pushing for peace, human rights and justice in Israel and Palestine. Locally, after a strong campaign, I was pleased that Brighton’s war plane part manufacturer L3 Harris had its planning decision refused by the council, but there is still no export ban to Israel on parts for the F-35 fighter, and I have been asking questions about why not, working with Campaign Against the Arms Trade.

I was the only MP to join the local response on our streets to the summer’s far right riots and was so proud of Brighton’s clear and positive defence of potential targets in the city and our refusal to accept fascists on our streets. In my maiden speech I praised the young people behind Citizens UK Brighton and Hove and joined them to celebrate their victory in winning a city-wide counselling pilot in Brighton recently.

And finally, a Green on BBC Question Time is historically quite rare, but in July I was asked to go on right after the election, alongside fellow Brighton and Hove MP, Peter Kyle. Carla Denyer was also asked on the programme two months later – which we hope is a good sign for future chances to talk about Brighton on the national stage.

Editorial – Sept 2024

A long time ago, I was 14 maybe 15, I had a two tone suit. No, not two tone like The Specials, but proper two tone. Tonic, where the material is two different colour threads, cross weaved to create a beautiful shimmer. Tonic became popular with the original Mods and while I wasn’t that – I’m not that blimmin old – I loved the style. My suit was brown and blue tonic and was just beautiful. Later, I got married in a blown chalkstripe zoot, like Neal Cassady wore in On The Road. Still got that one

I’ve always loved suits. Always. Forties style, double breasted. Chalkstripe, not pinstripe. Louder the better. I was Bogart, now I’m more Melly. Sometimes though, standing out isn’t such a great thing. Not long ago, I was in That London on the tube. It was late. There was a group of four lads…

“Did you win, mate? Did you win?” one of them said, looking at his mates for the laugh. 

I just looked straight ahead. Didn’t engage. 

“The fancy dress competition mate. Did you win it?” he laughed, trying to up the ante. 

“No, I came second to some twat in high street jeans and trainers” I didn’t say, because while I’m well dressed, I’m not stupid. 

You don’t get that here. One of the things I love about being in Brighton is mostly I get “Dapper, mate” or maybe “Cool suit, fella”.  

I was thinking about this because there’s a shop in the ‘hood that sells clothes I haven’t got a clue about. I went past the hairy bikers shop and there’s a pair of mechanic’s overalls hanging in the window. What’s that about? I have no idea what that’s about. Is it a sales thing? Are you supposed  to buy them? Am I supposed to walk past and think “Mechanic’s overalls. That’s really cool. That’s what I want to look like”?  In fairness, I’m. guessing they’re vintage mechanic’s overalls. Maybe they’re selvedge mechanic’s overalls. We’re getting into some serious cloth now. Maybe it’s an aspiration thing. I wanna hang out where the guys in the mechanic’s overalls hang out. I have no idea. And you know what? I like that. I like that there’s stuff I just don’t understand. I’ve just had a rather spendid blue and white tartan linen suit made. Six button, double breasted, no vents. Proper. I’ve got a friend who’ll spend more on a pair of jeans than that suit cost to have made. A pair of jeans. I wouldn’t wash the car in a pair of jeans. OK, I don’t own a pair of jeans, but that’s detail. Curiously, the friend in question is also a biker. I make no judgement. 

Like I say, what I like about being here is that I can look really good and the bikers can dress on mechanic’s overalls and everyone’s happy. We all just get on with it. (I could get all Hallmark card and go off on one about how we’re a rainbow community, all different and yet all the same, but… let’s not). Actually it’s a bit odd because, in full disclosure, the bikers won’t talk to us. Their call. Different idea about community, I guess. Or maybe they do try to talk to us and we just can’t hear them over the very manly noise of their very manly bikes. (I never did get over my parents not getting me a Chopper)

Next to the mechanic’s overalls, there’s a lumberjack shirt. Can you imagine what the twat on the tube would say to that?